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Ten First-Date Mistakes Guys Make with Eastern European Women

In order to do well on a first date with a woman from Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Poland, not only should you do certain things right, but it’s just as important not making first date mistakes that sabotage the opportunity to develop attraction with that woman.

Below, is a list of ten typical mistakes that many guys make on first dates that almost uniformly turn Eastern European women off and sabotage men's ability to develop and interesting, romantic interaction with women. Make sure you become aware and well familiar with the following points, so that you don’t make the same mistakes and make the most out of your first date with the women you meet.

1. Talking too much. This is one of the most common and deadly first date mistakes that both sexes are guilty of on a first date. Excessive chattiness literally kills attraction and interest. Use your words sparingly on your first date and don’t engage in a 10 minute monologue, leaving your date listen for too long and let her mind wonder away while sitting across from you and pretending to listen. No matter how interesting your story is, if it’s too long, it won’t be that interesting to her.

2. Not escalating physically promptly. This is another common first date mistake. Sitting across the table from a woman for three hours and talking is not a date. It’s an interview, so if you don’t get paid for it, you might as well do something else. You must, must, must not stay at the same venue where you met and sat down. That spot where you meet and have coffee / snack must be the starting place. From there, you should go somewhere together (such as a walk in the park) where you could stand / sit close to each other and have opportunity to “accidentally” bump into each other and casually, lightly and innocently touch each other on arms / shoulders, etc… In the absence of those cues, your date will turn into a stiff experience that neither you nor your date will want to repeat.

3. Not making eye contact with your date. Keeping your eyes on the walls / table the road while talking to your date is a sure way to turn her off. Keeping your eyes on your company is an obvious matter of social courtesy and an essential element for building attraction. Surely you shouldn’t stare in a woman’s eyes – especially the one you have never been out before, but making sure that your eyes meet periodically is absolutely necessary to keeping the attention of both of you on each other.

4. Not being funny on a first date and "walking on eggshells." Having a dry, formal conversation with a woman on a date is a major turn-off and is a sure way to come across as a boring guy, and that’s the last thing you should come across as. Make sure you don't play safe and don't "walk on eggshells" on your first date and that your conversation has a playful / teasing / sarcastic undertone throughout. Surely, you should not be funny all the time because that will make you come across as goofy or a clown, but mixing sharing serious thoughts with witty / clever humor is a recipe for creating attraction. Remember, what makes a date a date as opposed to a friendly meeting is FLIRTING. Flirting means being playful, teasing each other, and being sarcastic. Banter is where sexual attraction and romantic interest begin and grow from. And if a woman can’t handle this kind of interaction, she must not be smart enough and interesting enough for you to enjoy your company and you are better off finding that out as early as possible, so that both of you don’t waste your time with each other.

5. Being excessively generous with your compliments towards your date: it’s a good idea to compliment a woman once or twice during your first date. Any more compliments than that, and you will come across as corny and not genuine. Then, the value and the impact of your compliments will diminish and your kind words become meaningless. Remember, a compliment has impact and value when it is well deserved because then it communicates to the recipient of that compliment that whatever good things you have to say about someone are not meaningless flattery out of desire to be liked and accepted but your sincere opinion.

6. Agreeing with everything she says on a first date. To do well on your first date, you must be INTERESTING to the woman you are out with. Nodding at every single thing she and repeaing "oh, yes, exactly, totally, I completely agree" is a sure way to bore a woman to death. Think about it – if a woman wanted someone to agree with everything she says, she would just… talk to herself. While you shouldn’t be overly argumentative and just argue for the sake of arguing, you should not hesitate to provide your own, personal, unique prospective on the things you both are talking about.

7. Discussing yours and her dating life on a first date. Once you discuss the “process” of dating, relationships, or of making her interested and attracted to you, you are in a friend zone – a place that I am sure you want to avoid when you are out on a date. Why does talking about your / hers dating life is such a turn-off and puts you straight into a friend zone? Because that's what friends do - they talk about their relationships with each other, spilling their guts and views on dating and the opposite sex. Save those topics of conversation until … your 10th date or so. If she brings it up, give a very general vague response and switch the topic. For instance, your response to “How often do you date?” should be “I don’t know” / “I don’t really keep count” with a playful smile and talk about something else immediately.

8. Making it too fancy / too expensive. Remember – first date is just that - a first date. Its purpose is for the two of you to spend time together and FIND OUT whether you like each other. The last thing you should be doing is SHOWING how much you like a woman before you even get to know her. Nothing will make you come across as more desperate, needy and otherwise unattractive than buying a woman’s attention with an expensive dinner, theatre show, etc… Save those great activities until later – until you know that you both like each other.

9. Making your first date last longer than it should. There is a temptation to spend a long time together on a first date, especially if you like a woman. However, you must resist that temptation. You don’t want to “satiate” your interest in each other and it’s a much better idea to keep the first date short (not longer than 2-3 hours) and want to see each other again.

10. Not knowing how to lose on a first date with grace. Too many guys become rude once they see that a woman they are out with is not interested in them. Like in sports, you must learn how to accept rejection and "lose" your first date with a girl who is not interested with grace. Handling rejection or lack of interest with dignity, not taking it personally and moving on is part of becoming and being a confident, attractive man. Many guys start acting like assholes when they realize that they don't have a chance to attract a woman. They start saying rude things to a woman and even insult her. Don't be that guy! Treat women who are not attracted to you with respect. After all, you can't and shouldn't be liked by all women just like you don't like every single woman you meet. So, accept it as a normal fact of life and act accordingly.

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